Ever since I can remember I would experience either myself or others arguing about some subject or another. No one wants to be wrong so we argue or debate sometimes about the littlest things. Far too often tempers flare and arguments escalate out of control. We experience it in families, business and just about any place Humans gather.

Personally I have been sucked into that vortex of drama and would dig in my heels and participate. My 'opponent’ would do the same and the majority of the time it would result in a stalemate or angry feelings. Not a good place to be but being right is often paramount – or so it appears.

I so believed I had found a better way or a faster way or a cheaper way and wanted so much for others to adopt the same mindset that brought me an 'easier life’. In my eagerness to help I would do the exact opposite and create more issues than before the debate began. But after years of these stalemate outcomes it finally hit me. If I were able to allow others their own space without throwing fuel on the fire, the debate would wind down with no hard feelings. It’s like this…

If I throw a ball at a wall it will strike the wall, bounce and return back to me. I could again throw the ball to have it return again and again until I decide to stop. Until I decide to stop. That was the answer to defusing the vortex of drama I had been searching for. It would be like playing tennis on a cliff. I would serve the ball only to have it shoot off into the air with nothing for it to bounce off of. Game over, drama defused.

So I began using this new found concept in my daily life. At first I would begin engaging in the drama vortex but it wasn’t long before I caught myself and stopped serving the ball. Then I would remain quiet when being pelted with what I felt was nonsense, not returning their serve. I must admit, there were times they would have something that made sense mixed in their statements and I would learn something I hadn’t known before. I found that allowing others to be heard was all they wanted from me. I had always felt as if I had to help people but then found it better to remain silent until they asked for assistance. That was a difficult lesson to swallow as I observed them in struggles I believed I had an answer for. And I don’t know, maybe they felt the same about what they had to offer too. But since there are over seven billion truths on this Planet currently, everyone has their own way of BEing.

I am being prompted daily to remember to play tennis on a cliff. I admit I still don’t have that concept down 100% but the time it takes for me to realize to disengage from the vortex of drama is coming quicker every day. It won’t be long before another part of inner peace arrives and I’ll be free of the need to interfere outside myself, allowing others to ask for help instead of me arriving like the knight in shining armor ready to do battle with some etheric foe.

The armor has grown heavy. I’m nearly ready to store it away as a reminder of once was not to be used again. With a little more effort that day will arrive soon.